PARENT COACHING FAQ’s
1.What is Coaching?
Coaching is a supportive, non-judgmental, action-oriented relationship designed to help you make desired changes in your life. By asking direct, thought provoking questions and providing observations and perceptions, a coach brings clarity and direction in helping a client move forward. Through the coaching process, a client will explore issues, evaluate options, and gain confidence in their decision-making. The coach acts as a sounding board, a cheerleader, and an accountability agent.
2. What is ADHD Coaching?
ADHD is a neurobiological condition. As a Certified Coach, specifically educated in ADHD Coaching, I am trained in the latest research, and the most effective treatments in working with people with ADHD, Executive Function disorders, and related issues. Widely respected organizations and individuals including the National Institute of Mental Health, Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder (CHADD), Russell Barkley (ADHD: A Handbook for Diagnosis and Treatment), and Edward Hallowell (Driven to Distraction) have endorsed Coaching as a vital missing link for achieving success Learn more about ADHD Coaching
Coaching and therapy are similar in many ways, as they both seek to help people become more functional and successful in their lives. The approaches are not always mutually exclusive and can often be supportive of one another. Therapy is primarily focused on treating mental disorders and coping with past traumas. As ADHD is a neurobiological disorder, often support is found in gaining self-awareness, and in developing strategies for responding more effectively to innate challenges. Coaching does not focus on “why,” but “what now?” We shift problems into goals and help individuals stay accountable to those goals. When appropriate, I work collaboratively with therapists and psychiatrists.
There is no denying that having ADHD creates tremendous difficulties and challenges. Children are often as acutely aware as the adults in their lives of the complex obstacles they face. When you allow yourself to look beyond the weaknesses, you begin to recognize the tremendous strengths that your child also possesses. For example, as Dr. Hallowell says, “Creativity is impulsivity gone right.”
ADHD is said to be a challenge of Motivation and Interest. We must, therefore, tap into children’s strengths and passions to help them succeed in all areas of life. The more you see your child or student in a positive light and recognize him for his strengths, the more he will believe in himself and the more he will grow in maximizing his strengths and overcoming his weaknesses. I will help you and your child discover your child’s strengths, talents and passions as you both learn to manage and compensate for his weaknesses. There is never anything so wrong with us that what is right with us can’t fix.
5. What is the benefit of joining the Parent Coaching Workshop Series?
Being a parent of a challenging child can at times feel very isolating. Friends and family members may be well meaning, but without experiencing the problems and difficulties you and your child face on a daily basis, their support and guidance may fall short. Learning and sharing with other parents allows you to create meaningful connections with others who can both understand and help you as you travel your parenting journey. Parents who participate in the Parent Coaching Workshop Series are invited to join the Calm and Connected Parent Support Group.
6. Is it necessary for both parents to attend the Parent Coaching Workshop Series?
When two people are involved in parenting a challenging child, the approach and philosophy they each take must support one another. While it is not necessary for each parent to participate in the Workshop Series, the opportunity for both to hear first hand and explore the challenging issues with me is highly beneficial and recommended.
7. Are Parent Coaching Workshops appropriate for single parents, grandparents, or other guardians?
Yes. Single parents find it especially valuable to have other parents to share concerns with and to learn from. Any grandparents or other guardians who are significant care givers will benefit from the knowledge this workshop provides
8. Where does coaching take place?
Individual coaching can take place in New York City, Nassau County and Suffolk County (Long Island, NY). Phone coaching and Internet based coaching via Skype and chat services are available as well.
9. Are you available to work with my child’s teachers?
Yes. I am available to consult with your child’s teachers throughout the school year to insure that the teachers truly understand your child’s challenges and the best practices to support and educate them in the classroom and work collaboratively with you. Additionally, I can help you develop an appropriate IEP or 504 plan (see question below) to support your child’s needs. Visit my school support page.
10. What is Mindfulness and how does Mindfulness training help people with ADHD?
Mindfulness involves paying close attention to your thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. In teaching you to pay attention to what you are paying attention to, it improves your ability to pay attention. This greater awareness can help reduce impulsivity and improve emotional self-regulation. These are core issues for people with ADHD, especially while they are young.
An Individualized Education Plan covered under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (known as IDEA) is a legally binding document that spells out exactly what special education services your child will receive and why. A 504 plan is based on a Civil Rights Statute that guaranties modifications and accommodations to qualifying students for a Free and Appropriate Public Education (FAPE).
12. Do you provide training for school staff and administrators?
Yes. So much of what we know about ADHD has been learned during the past decade. Teachers and administrators are often unaware of the advances in research and support that is now available to help children with ADHD. I provide a variety of training opportunities for teachers and administrators and can tailor my program to meet specific needs. Please see Teacher Trainings and School System Support.